西方泡妞经典文章（Real World Seduction）
Part 1: Becoming the PrizeThe first part of this book is going to impart you with some very powerful beliefs, attitudes, and frames for being the sort of man hot women pursue. I know some of you are going to feel tempted to skip over this section and go straight to the sections on PRIZABILITY and PRIZING.
However, fight against this temptation.
The reason is that the beliefs, attitudes, and frames l have included in this section are essential for mastering the arts of both PRIZABILITY and PRIZING. If you consider yourself well motivated and want optimal results, read this section twice.
Chapter I: My Story
Ever since l was a kid l was fascinated by the art of picking up and seducing women. I still have vivid memories from being a kid of going to the mall with buddies and trying to GAME chicks--we would usually fail miserably because we were stilI GAMING, but in time this all changed.
When l was in Junior high school l was a total nerd.
So, before l entered high school l made a conscious effort to change myself: I read a couple of books on dating, changed my dress and got a cool haircut. Did this make a difference? You bet your ass it did. By high school l had a few girls as consistent booty calls, and had a couple hot girlfriends. This was nothing to write home about, but at least l was getting laid.
Then l went off to college and my sex life plummeted. One time after not getting laid for several months, I went to a frat party and ****ed a total warpig (“warpig" is slang for fat chick with a mustache). When l woke up the next morning, I was half suffocated by her thick torso wrapped around me, and half depressed that l had stooped to an all time low. I knew that l had to do something about this area of my life. Some people told me that dwelling on this was superficiaI. I thought: they might be right, nonetheless, getting this area of my life out of the way seems damn significant to me.
So, at that moment l made a conscious effort to seriously start improving my skills with women.
At first l studied videos, books, and tapes on the subject -- I even studied hypnosis and NLP. I did have some success after studying all of this materiaI. However, Iooking back, a lot of the success l had was probably due to both me having something to say and my confidence in the material l had studied (Iook, if you say anything with confidence that isn't totally offensive, a certain amount of women are going to be into it just because you are giving them attention. The problem is this: these women are usually not the women we desire).
As time went on, I stopped trying to GAME or win over the women l desired, and started PRIZING them. This resulted in me not only bedding more, but bedding hotter girls.
Much of what l was doing to PRIZE these women had little to do with the original material l had studied.
Even weirder was this: during this time l had a chance to meet and befriend many of the so-called pickup gurus. Many of the things that made them successful had almost nothing to do with what they taught.
I think a big problem was not that these guys were consciously secretive about this skill set, but that they were not conscious of having it. Some of these guys taught me a lot.
However, it was only once l put a valiant effort into befriending, talking to, analyzing, and sleeping with women, that l really begun to understand how to PRIZE.
The reasoning for this is twofold. Firstly, most women, unlike men, intuitively understanding how to PRIZE: get men chasing them. So, by spending most of my time with, not men, but women, I Iearned how to PRIZE. Secondly, you have to know the nature of the beast, to compel it to chase you. Put in other words, I Iearned how to make women tic by being around them.
Moving forward.
Chapter II: Attributes of men who are the PRIZE
When l was younger l was always under the impression that women assessed a man's worth by the value of the things he possessed: his looks, his clothes, his car, his house, etc. But then in college l came into contact with a man who had none of these things: he was old, ugly, bald, poor, and neither owned a car nor a house. However, hot women were always befriending him, flirting with him, calling him, and sleeping with him. This was not just something he told me. I saw with my own eyes hot women dashing up to him and embracing him with giant bear hugs, Iustfully admiring him, and then begging him to go on a date with them. Often times, he would slowly look them directly in the eyes and calmly utter, "No". Then they would try to persuade him why he should go out with them. Once again, he would slowly look into their eyes, cock one eyebrow, and calmly utter, "No". This really frustrated women, but was fascinating to watch. At first l did not understand what was going on. I even contemplated him being a drug dealer. But what l did not realize at the time was that he was doing certain things that conveyed to women that he was the PRIZE. Since then, I have encountered several men who also have certain attributes or do certain things conveying that they are the PRIZE to women. Let’s take a look at some of these attributes.
Taking a Strong Lead:
These men are not afraid to take a strong lead. Most hot women are turned on by a strong dominant male lead. Women will often times try to take control of the lead to test how sure of himself a man is. If they discover that he is unsure of himself or has a weak sense of self, they will often times run the other way or walk all over him. Nonetheless, this is a sure way to loose a woman. When we talk about frames, we will explore techniques for keeping in control of the lead.
Having high standards:
This is a big part of what makes these sorts of men the PRIZE. I think these men are doing two things to convey to women that they have high standards.
Firstly, they are conveying through their attitudes and behaviours to women the belief that most women already want to sleep with them. Secondly, they are letting women know that they will not sleep with them if they fall short of their expectations, standards, and rules.
Will some women think these sorts of men are arrogant, demanding, and snobby?
Yes, but there is a part deep down inside most women that love when men act this way. However, few will ever admit that it exists.
I think the reason most women love when a man acts this way is that it conveys to them that he is used to being treated as the PRIZE. Put in other words, it makes them think that he is used to being courted, gamed, and chased by women.
Making her come into their world:
When most men are interested in a woman they make the mistake of coming into her world. Let me give you an all too familiar example of this. Imagine that there is a guy who tries to invite a girl out with him, and the girl counters by saying that she already has plans to go to her friend's party, but that she would love for him to tag along. When the guy arrives at the party, he knows no one and the girl is surrounded by both guys and girls giving her lots of attention.
The problem with this scenario is that unless the guy is very skilled at PRIZING, the girl will end up taking the lead, which, as we have learned, is a bad thing because women are attracted to men who take a strong lead, not the other way around.
Plus, this guy has extra work cut out for himself: he must prove himself to her friends. Thus, this is not the ideal environment for bringing out his most PRIZABLE attributes.
So, if you want her to see you as the PRIZE, make sure you take her into your world. Take her around people who already love and admire you. In these social situations you will not have to try hard to prove yourself to others because they already love you. This will allow the most PRIZABLE attributes of your personality to flourish. Also, your friends loving and admiring you will validate in her eyes that you are the PRIZE. So remember, men who are the PRIZE do not go into her world but make her come into their world. In other words, they make her play on their battlefield
(note: this only applies to the first couple times these guys hang out with a girI. If they have been seeing a girl for a while, and refuse to ever go into her world, she will perceive them as
being insecure--bad thing!). Making her accommodate them:
Most women that l know have told me that they are turned off by men who try too hard at accommodating them. I think what happens when a man does this is that he comes across as desperate and approval seeking. Many of us know of guys who when out with a woman will become very self-conscious about things such as: whether or not she likes the music they are playing in their cars, or whether or not she likes the way they dress. The problem is that when guys spend lots energy either caring about what a woman thinks of them, or trying to accommodate her, she will pick up on it. Women have some weird intuitive ability for picking up on men's insecurities. Even if a man acts confident, but is dwelling on accommodating her and caring about what she thinks of him, she will smell his insecurities a mile away.
As we already know, being insecure, desperate, and approval seeking, is not the best way to get women to see you as the PRIZE.
So, what is my suggestion: stop caring so much about accommodating women.
Emulate the actions of men who are the PRIZE by making women accommodate you. Put in better words, do things that make women court, pursue, and chase you. If you are thinking to yourself, "this all sounds great, but how do I 'actually' get a woman chasing me?" don't worry because you are in luck: showing you the exact steps to getting a woman to chase you is exactly what this book is about.
Being Challenging:
AImost all hot women like a man who can challenge them in the right way. Challenging a woman combines taking a strong lead, having standards, taking her into your world, keeping her toes, taking her on an emotional roller coaster, and making her accommodate you (we will spend quite a bit of time on the art of challenging later on).
Having a sense of humor:
In lceberg SIim's book 'Pimp' he says, "A Pimp is happy when his whores
giggle. He knows they are asleep".
Now just to let you know, I do not endorse being a pimp, and l do not view
women as whores.
However, I think SIim's point is a powerful one. Whenever, a man gets a
woman laughing, she feels comfortable. What this means is that she stops
judging and analyzing every move he is making, and her defenses go down.
This makes it much easier to take a strong lead, get what you want, and make
her chase you.
Humor also shows that you neither take yourself nor the interaction too
seriously; and seriousness is the death of good PRIZING.
Furthermore, one of the sexiest nonphysical qualities women find in men is
humor. In fact, there are numerous examples of women falling hard for men
who they physically were not attracted to, yet found their sense of humor to be
irresistible.
So, if you can learn to do what l teach in a way that gets women laughing, you
are more than on your way to becoming the sort of man women try to win
over.
Being vulnerable:
If a person comes across as too perfect, women will often times loath him. Maybe this is because he makes women feel insecure? Maybe this is because, since humans are fallible by nature, he comes across as fake and disingenuous? I don't know.
Nonetheless, I have found it useful to reveal some vulnerability or weakness within the first few hours of meeting a woman. What l like to do when PRIZING a woman is to tell her a couple of things about myself, which reveal a weak or vulnerable side of me.
Displaying costly signals:
Recently l was reading a book authored by the lsraeli evolutionary biologist Amotz Zahavi called "The handicap principaI". In the book he argues that the alpha males of many species of animals advertise or give off certain signals to females letting them know that they are fit for survivaI, and, thus, worthy of being a mating partner. But according to Zahavi, many of these signals are not the advertising of characteristics that are conducive to survivaI. Instead, they are signals that are the advertising of characteristics, which hinder one from surviving. But, the message to females is: despite having these characteristics l can still survive.
So, how does this apply to PRIZING women?
WelI, as male humans, mating is an essential part of our genetic survivaI. This is probably why males typically exploit every opportunity to mate with attractive females. Likewise, the less opportunities a male has to mate, the more needy he becomes about mating when an opportunity comes along.
However, the man who is indifferent or turns down a possible opportunity to mate with an attractive women, is putting out the signaI: Despite the fact that l am not mating with you, my genes will still survive because l have so many other opportunities to mate with other attractive women.
In my experience giving off this vibe to women is extremely powerful and a big part of conveying the message of being the PRIZE.
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